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Carol A. Koch

Born: 1947     Died: 2012

Carol A. Koch

Carol A. Koch nee Kozak, of Surprise, AZ formerly of Tinley Park, IL. age 65. Beloved wife of Robert “Bob”. Loving mother of Scott. Devoted daughter of the late Walter “Jocko” and Sophie “Zos” Kozak. Cherished sister of Peter (Lois) Kozak, Kathleen (Larry) Jackel, Martha (David) Gomolka, Michael (Lisa) Kozak and Stephen (Janet) Kozak.  Also loved by many nieces, nephews and cousins. Carol was a teacher at Argo High School from 1969 until 1978. Funeral Monday, 9:30 am from the Brady-Gill Funeral Home, 16600 S. Oak Park Ave, Tinley Park to St. George Church. Memorial Mass 10 am. Interment private. Memorial visitation Sunday from 4 to 9 pm. Carol was a member of South Cook M.S. Self Help Group.  In lieu of flowers donations to the Multiple Sclerosis Society, 525 W. Monroe St., Chicago, IL 60661 appreciated. (708) 614-9900 or www.bradygill.com.

Scott's Eulogy

I've told several of my friends that my father taught me how to be smart.

My mother taught me how to be strong.

I've also told people that if I live to be half the man my father is, I will have lived a good life. You would be hard-pressed to find a better example of unwavering dedication. I often times wonder just how in fact he was able to be the pillar that we all know him to be.

But what I've realized in contemplating this loss is that if any of us get through our lives while exhibiting just a fraction of the patience, understanding, and grit that my mother possessed, we'll have succeeded in lives we were given.

For those of you who knew her before MS, you know that she was remarkable woman - rarely without her hands on one project or another. Always willing to do for others. For those of you who knew her while she was battling MS, you know that she was even more remarkable. She dedicated herself to helping others with MS, raising over $125,000 for MS research. She volunteered to take part in drug experiments knowing that her condition was too far gone and that the results would only truly help those who are now being diagnosed with this terrible disease. That was just the kind of person she was. She gave without question.

It's impossible to imagine what she went through, losing the ability to perform the simplest tasks, the ability to move and eventually even the ability to speak clearly. The things that most of us take for granted.

What's remarkable and a true testament to her character is that she never complained. I never heard her say it wasn't fair. Or ask why me? What most of us consider a bad day is nothing in comparison to what she faced without complaint every minute of every day.

Not only did she not complain, but as so many of you recalled yesterday, she was usually the person in the room laughing and making the ones around her laugh. Often times simply by not being able to stop laughing. I'm sure many of you here have born witness to my mother's famous laughing spells. Once you got her laughing there was no end and that laughter was infectious. As so many of you shared with me yesterday, simply put, she was just a great lady who made the people around her better.

My parents would have been married for 40 years on June 10th. A great deal of that time was difficult; often times nothing short of a physical and emotional battle. But then ten years I ago remember almost falling out of my chair when my father told me that my mother wanted to move to Arizona. While a surprise to me and I'm sure many of you, it was the greatest thing that could have happened. They spent the last 10 years in Arizona doing more together than they ever were able to do in the preceding 30. It was difficult to keep up with their social calendar with all of the ball games, plays, concerts and travel. I was sad that they were so far away, but as I'm sure many of you felt, so happy to know that they were finally able to simply enjoy each other's time together.

It's how we deal with adversity that serves as the measure of our character. My mother lived life to the fullest despite the physical burden that as foisted upon her. I hope that you will all remember the laughter that she shared. The smiles that she brought. The love that she gave so freely.

But what I would ask you to remember in your daily lives is her strength. There is no better way to honor the passing of a loved one than to remember their greatest qualities – the characteristics that defined them. When things are difficult and feel like they could not get worse, think of her strength, her patience and her grace. Remember how she dealt with adversity and endeavor to emulate that strength in your own lives. That is how she would have wanted to be remembered.

I love you mom.

Visitation:

Time:
May 20, 2012  4:00 pm - 9:00 pm
Location:
Brady-Gill, Tinley Park   -   Map
Street:
16600 S. Oak Park Ave.
City:
Tinley Park
State:
IL
ZIP:
60477

Service:

Date:
May 21, 2012
Time:
Mass 10:00 am
Location:
St. George Church, Tinley Park, IL

Final Disposition:

Type:
Interment private
Location:

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Bud & Sue 06-01-2012 19:28

Love the video. Always remember Carol fondly

 

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